Archive for the Orphan Care Category

Stupid Economy Cost Me My Job!

Posted in all about me, God's Kids, Ministry, Orphan Care, Rants with tags , , on February 3, 2008 by len20

RecessionI’ve known for about a month that last Friday, Feb. 1 would be my last day at God’s Kids. Now I’m able to tell everyone publicly. To be honest, I think I was hoping that a big semi truck loaded with cash would miraculously pull up to the God’s Kids offices this month with a bewildered driver saying, “They just told me to drop it off here.”

But the truck didn’t come, and our little ministry for orphaned children is tightening it’s belt to weather this economic storm. We all knew this storm was coming. I even wrote about it in previous posts, But that doesn’t help much. I loved this job, and I’ll mourn losing it for a long time to come.

I think God’s Kids, like a lot of other ministries, is in for a rough patch, but they’ll make it through. So far, the ministry has not reduced funding for the orphanages in the field and they plan to keep it that way.

As to the future of this blog, I will probably begin writing on broader topics having to do with the health of the world’s children. As for me, if anyone needs a place to park a big semi truck loaded with cash, I know just the place.

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A Final Tally on the Alternative Baby Shower

Posted in all about me, alternative baby shower, God's Kids, Orphan Care with tags , , , on January 9, 2008 by len20

Baby AnnouncementI’m so happy to announce that Madelyn raised $900 for orphaned children!

To all of you who sent gifts, thank you! I’m going to leave the donation link up on my profile page for a little while longer just in case someone wants to put us over $1,000.

The Alternative Baby Shower has been a lot of fun to promote, and as you can see, Maddie is tickled pink by the results.

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Maddie Has Raised $675 For Third World Orphans

Posted in all about me, alternative baby shower, God's Kids, Orphan Care with tags , , , on December 20, 2007 by len20

We’re at $675 for the Alternative Baby Shower. I’m pumped! Lot’s of our family and friends have contributed including Men in the Making, the small group I’m a part of that focuses on our roles as young husbands. Thanks, guys!

The shower will continue through December. I’d love to top $1,000! If you’re interested in helping us get there, check it out.

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Stakeholders in the American Adoption System – Identify Yourselves

Posted in Adoption, Orphan Care with tags , , , on December 19, 2007 by len20

I’ve really enjoyed the discussion happening on the “Is the Adoption Discussion One-Sided?” post. Aside from just enjoying a good discussion, I really think that we are all motivated by our compassion for kids and our desire to improve the parts of the system (in this case, the adoption system) that can be improved.

I’d like to propose that we air out some more of our laundry by identifying the stakeholders in the adoption discussion. I’ll make an effort to name the major players and give a brief description of their perspective. Then it’s open season to add, subtract, correct, and criticize. I have not included the ugliest players in the adoption game – those who use the system to exploit and abuse helpless children. I do not consider them to be stakeholders in this discussion; I consider them to be garbage.

Here we go.

1. Generation X Adoptees – adults age 25-40 who were adopted

Perspective: The American adoption system is good, but not great, certainly not perfect. While they may feel that they grew up in a loving home and were a welcome member of the family with brothers, sisters, mom and dad, they acknowledge that being adopted has had an effect on them (for better or for worse) that many would prefer (from their perspective) to glaze over. Being adopted hasn’t made them just like everyone else with a loving family; this part of their identity has made them unique. They are unique emotionally, psychologically, and with regard to developing their family tree. They are ready to embrace this uniqueness.

2. Baby Boomer Adoptive Parents – adults age 41-60 who have adopted children into their family

Perspective: Adoption has changed their lives for the better. The American adoption system is far from perfect primarily because of the expense and bureaucracy that prevents loving, well-intentioned parents from adopting more children. They adopted for a variety of reasons including a sincere desire to have a family of their own and to provide a safe, loving home for children who needed help. They consider their adopted children their own children and would ideally like to believe that their adopted children feel no differently about their membership in the family and self-identity than any biological children. Because adoption has been such a deeply personal and fulfilling part of their lives, criticism of adoption can be hurtful given that they adopted with the best of intentions.

3. Baby Boomer Biological Moms – adults age 41-60 who have given up a child to adoption

Perspective: I think this may be a mix. I know that there are women who are dealing with serious emotional and psychological pain after giving up their child possibly decades ago. They would love to have that decision back, to do it over, to do it better. They either have or would like to reunite with their biological children. They want to talk with them, to tell them who they are and to discover who their children are. On the other hand, I also think there are women who have found peace with their decision knowing that they made the decision in the best interest of the child. I need more help with this one.

4. Generation X Prospective Adoptive Parents – Adults age 25-40 who are considering adopting

Perspective: They are passionate about finding solutions to the great problems in the world – poverty, oppression, injustice. Vulnerable children are a focal point for their compassion. However, they have heard stories of adoptions that have not turned out well, and are more aware of potential negative outcomes than previous generations. They are afraid of doing more harm than good in their own lives and the lives of the children they would adopt.

5. Generation Y Orphans – 143 million orphaned children under age 18.

Perspective: Their perspective is probably still being formed. I believe our responsibility is to figure out how to best serve them.

6. Who Have I Forgotten?

Alright, let’s hear from you. Tear it up.

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Nearing the $500 mark with the Alternative Baby Shower

Posted in alternative baby shower, God's Kids, Orphan Care with tags , , , on December 17, 2007 by len20

More family and friends contributed to the Alternative Baby Shower this weekend and we’re close to $500. Madelyn has raised $445 to be exact. The baby shower will continue through this month, I’d love to break $1,000! If you’d like to help us get there, go to my staff page on the God’s Kids website.

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The Alternative Baby Shower Is On!

Posted in all about me, alternative baby shower, family, God's Kids, Orphan Care, stewardship with tags , , , , , on November 29, 2007 by len20

Ok, I got enough encouragement from friends and bloggers to make this idea happen. If you have no Idea what I’m talking about, I wrote in a recent post about an idea that Jill (my wife) and I came up with while we were walking our dog. Here’s the idea.

God’s Kids needs a big December in donations to meet the commitments we’ve made to more than 2,000 orphans across the world. Jill and I are having our first baby (anytime now), and lots of people are asking us what our baby needs. Well, the fact is that we live in the land of plenty, and our baby just doesn’t need a whole lot. So we thought, what if we held an alternative baby shower? Instead of our friends and family getting us gifts for our new baby, why don’t we ask them to give to God’s Kids to help orphaned children who know what “need” really means? Oh, and why don’t we invite the whole world to come to this baby shower to help orphans?

So we’ve done it. It’s really easy. Just follow this link to give to orphaned children in honor of Baby Leonard.

I’m really excited about this, and I hope people get into it. The shower will go through the end of the year, and I’ll post updates on this blog and at the God’s Kids site. If you like this idea, and you think that others might like it too, please feel free to invite them to the shower. We need all the help we can get.

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Study: Adoption Not Harmful to Child’s Self-Esteem

Posted in Adoption, Media, Orphan Care with tags , , , on November 25, 2007 by len20

I’m still searching for a print version of this story, but for now you can listen to it on NPR. I did my best to scribble down notes as I listened to the story, so I’ve likely misspelled some names and gotten some details mixed up. Feel free to correct me.

I think there are some common fears that come with thinking through adoption. Mine especially is what if my adopted child can’t get over being adopted, can’t get over being different from his siblings and he just isn’t happy about it. A study recently published in the journal, Psychological Bulletin is very encouraging to anyone experiencing similar fears.

Femmie Juffer, a Dutch psychologist, used data from more than 80 different studies along with her own research to blow up the assumption that adopted children suffer lower self-esteem than other children. Her conclusions also say that kids adopted into families that are of a different race or culture are no worse off either. “Race just doesn’t matter as much as people thought it did,” she says.

Juffer also reports that psychology’s focus on very early childhood might be overdone. She found no difference in kids adopted between ages one and four, and those adopted before their first birthday. Kids who become part of a loving, stable family are able to adjust fully and overcome traumatic experiences in their first years of life.

The article says that many adopted children exhibit some developmental delays in physical growth, language skills, and school performance, but they quickly catch up with their peers.

Steve Nickman, a psychologist from Harvard, says that Juffer’s report is very encouraging, but has some limitations. It does not talk about kids who are moved from family to family in a foster care system or from one possible adoptive family to another.

In the end, it looks like parents interested in adoption have little to fear regarding children’s ability to adjust to a new family.

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